Attraction is a funny thing.

If you’re like many, you believe physical appearance and achievements is the driving force behind attractiveness. If you hold that belief, you’d be wrong.

While they play a role, your thoughts and how you carry yourself are the dominant power behind attractiveness. You don’t have to be dressed in the latest trends or wear the right label to be attractive. You also don’t have to lose the pounds to attain your ideal body weight. You don’t have to be a CEO to be attractive.

Here are 5 ways you can be more attractive and magnetic that have nothing to do with your physical appearance or your achievements:

1. Self Confidence

Self Confidence is the most attractive quality in a woman. It’s irresistible, it knocks men over.

It draws them in.

It makes them feel like what they provide will make a difference because she’s already fine and she doesn’t need rescuing.

They can relax and they can be themselves.

Find out what gives you confidence and do it everyday.

Is it shoes or purses?

Manicured nails or a great haircut?

It could be feeling healthy from eating good food. Or feeling fit from taking your body out for a spin.

Whatever it is, don’t feel silly or guilty about providing it for yourself.

Ultimately, your being confident contributes to everyone.

2. Authenticity

One of the highest compliments a man can pay a woman is to say that she is “real.”

They see it as being courageous—a woman who has the courage to just put herself out there and be who she really is.

Can you see that authenticity would go with self-confidence?

That the more confidence you have, the more authentic you’ll be able to be?

The more you like yourself, the more you’ll be able to be yourself.

3. Receiving from a man without the burden to give.

Men fall in love when they can give to us, when they can please us. That’s how he feels attracted to you.

That’s how a masculine man feels good around you when he is giving. So, don’t give a man more than he gives you.

It feels selfish at first but romance is a different ball game than other relationships of your life.

In friendship there is equality there is give and take, in mothering there is a lot of giving that you have to do but in romance HE has to be giving you more than you’re giving to him.

In fact when you give a man more than he gives to you, he actually starts to feel turned off by you without even knowing what’s really happening. It’s almost like a gut reaction in a man.

4. Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries help healthy relationships flourish no matter what relationship it is. When you practice your boundaries in dating, men find it attractive.

Men don’t want an easy woman, it really serves to say “No” when something doesn’t feel good and appear high value rather than tolerating it.

Good boundaries run off wackos, and attract men who are into responsibility  and relationship.

Good boundaries help you know how much to give, and when to stop giving.

Boundaries help you be yourself, instead of losing yourself in someone else.

5. Balance and Whole Life

When your life is filled with a lot of different things like friends, adventure, family, fitness, hobbies etc and the man is not the only focus of your life you will come across as very alluring to a man.

You will naturally offer a challenge and not be easily available any time a man asks you out.

A man doesn’t want to be the center of your Universe, he wants to come and join the party and become a part of your “Whole Life”.

Do you currently practice these ways in your dating life?